Well the heading alone speaks volumes. It is quite clear that it is not just the men who are guilty of this. Women do this all the time as well. In fact to be fair, any social person in this era most likely has been ghosted at some point in their life or done the deed themselves. Relax! It’s a  pretty normal occurrence. However that fact doesn’t make it hurt any less.Do you want to know the truth? Most of the times, we usually bring all of this upon ourselves without even noticing; our bad habits, our flaws! They push people away. Self awareness is one of the rarest but most crucial human commodities.Know the basics at least; strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. Look at that! SWOT analysis! And they dare say school taught us nothing!

As much as people like to say that women are  the hardest to understand, they are actually very easy to figure out. Before you shake your head in disagreement, hear me out! Women are very vocal and regardless of how crazy their wants could be, the good thing thing is they will express it to you in details and not leave you guessing. However boys will be boys! They will continue exhibiting the same old behaviors which obviously won’t go so well with the ladies. As a result, the relationships die as soon as they begin. Now let’s talk about some of the most common reasons that women have, for cutting certain men off!

You are Inconsistent!

If you take anything away from this read, let it be this. Consistency is key to keeping a woman interested. There is nothing more annoying than a man who is on your tail one second and the next he seems to have disappeared from the face of the earth. Are you dating Casper the friendly ghost! Nobody has time for these mixed signals! Popping in and out of someone’s life at your own convenience. It is emotionally draining and quite honestly a waste of precious time. There are incredible guys out there and if  you were wondering why she stopped texting you, sorry to let you know but she drifted off to the ‘good guys’. The right man will not have you guessing whether they are interested in you or not. There is nothing more captivating than a man who not only consistently shows up but at the same time comes at you correctly. Its the little things that matter. Find out what she likes and work with it consistently!

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You Are Stingy!

Before you get riled up, you members of the SMA aka Stingy Men Association! Yes you! Listen. It is well known that there are women out there who exaggerate in this sector; asking for just a tiny bit too much. Not every lady is like that! Some of them just want the bare minimum.They just want to see the effort and willingness.

Nobody wants to split the bill on the first date! This is usually a no brainer. I don’t even understand why this is ever a discussion. Its the little things. Pay for things you can afford! Dates don’t have to be expensive.Most importantly,refrain from complaining after giving or making rude comments such as ‘You women are nothing but expenses’. It cancels out everything. You’d rather not have given anything at all.

According to Gary Chapman, there are 5 love languages; words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. If you are dealing with someone who is into gifts and you’re busy bombarding her with words of affirmation, there is definitely going to be a disconnect. What men don’t get is that generosity does not have to be expensive! Give at your level! If anything it shows even more effort than from someone who has plenty.

You're Such A Boring Conversationalist

Whether on text or call, there are people who just cant keep a conversation. This is despite the fact that there are so many things to talk about! The day;-the good, the bad, the ugly and even more serious talk such as your goals, aspirations, fears, hopes amongst many other things. Figure out your preferred medium of choice and work with that. We get it! Not everyone is good on either chat or call. By this I mean, those fellas who keep on typing ‘Hae dia and kul’…Please stop! Your days are numbered. Call if you can! If you cant do either, make an effort to meet up and discuss in person. There is something intimate about a free flowing conversation! A safe space where you can discuss anything even the most mundane of things without being judged. Ps it doesn’t have to be all serious. However if you insist on doing the ‘Good morning ,What did you eat and Goodnight playscript’, you’re definitely going to have it rough with the ladies.

You Are Nonchalant!

Guys who act like they don’t care! What’s your deal? Is this an emotional strategy of some sort where you believe a lady will like you more, if you act aloof .If you ask me ,we are no longer twenty years old and this used to only work then. Women now genuinely don’t have the energy for this!’ Can we meet up for coffee? ‘Sure if you want to ‘….’If I want to?’  What does that even mean? Those are just a few of the many questions women raise when men behave in a certain manner. Make up your mind and act accordingly. If you’re not interested, obviously make it clear and we can all move on from there.

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You don't Keep Your Word!

Don’t make promises you cant keep! Women remember everything no matter how small. Nothing shows more seriousness than a man who honors his word. He says what he means and means what he says. Men who throw promises around just for the sake of it come out as having hidden agendas. They only say say something either to get something they wanted at the time but once they  do, they don’t follow through with anything else they promised. People have a name for this kind of people, Liars! It is a bad habit! It is a red flag. Keep your promises no matter how small and you shall exude reliability and seriousness. You shall be trusted!